Helping children cope with the loss of a loved one by William C. Kroen

Helping children cope with the loss of a loved one:  a guide for grown-ups by William C. Kroen, edited by Pamela Espeland. Free Spirit Publishing, 1996.

Possibly the best book to begin to research this area. It is designed, primarily, for the parents of the grieving child, but can be useful for any adult. It begins with a section entitled Quick answers to common questions designed as a starting point for those who are themselves mourning and cannot cope with reading more.The questions include: How can I tell my children about the death?; What can I say when my children ask 'why'?; Should I talk about the death in religious terms?;  Should my children attend the wake, funeral, and burial?; Will it harm my children if they see me cry?; What if I'm too overcome with grief to attend to my children's needs?; Should I tell my children's teachers about the death?; What are some of the ways my children might react to the death and how should I respond?; When is it okay for my children to start playing again?; What are the most important things I can do for my children right now?. It also includes anecdotes about real children.